A letter to my younger self

Now that I’m pregnant I can’t stop thinking about all the things I want to share with and teach my little boy.  Things like, how to be a caring and compassionate individual, having big dreams and how to accomplish them, not letting the little setbacks in life hold him down etc,etc.  Then I thought, wow if I could go back and write a letter to my younger self, what would I say to her?  So, here it is.

Dear Tiffany,

You are a beautiful person both inside and out, don’t ever ever forget that.

You have the ability to do anything you want in life.  It won’t come easy and you will have to work hard and take many risks, but if you believe in yourself you can do it. You will undoubtedly encounter much sadness along your journey in life, but with time and good people by your side you will get through it and those moments will make you a stronger, better person.  You will also encounter many great things in life and you should always keep those memories as a reminder of the many blessings you have had.  Money will come and go, but it is not the be all and end all in life. Your happiness should be the most important thing to you, whatever it takes to be happy should be the thing you focus on the most. Being a courteous, caring, loving person will attract good people into your life and those people will surround you with love, laughter and light in return. Travelling can bring you to some of the best experiences you will ever have. |Travel to new destinations both near and far, meet new people along the way and explore the extraordinary things life has to offer. Love with your full heart. Love your friends, love your family and most importantly love YOU. Take care of your health. Exercise, eat real food, enjoy the outdoors, stop to smell the flowers and bask in the beautiful sunlight.  Despite how hard society is on people, try not to be too hard on yourself. Love you for you and know you are worthy of every breath you take. Don’t be judgmental for you have not experienced what others have, don’t be jealous for you are blessed in many ways of your own.  Be passionate, be artistic and be bold. Don’t be afraid to hurt because this too shall pass. Be unique, be open to love, be fantastically you. Be true to yourself, be honest and be everything you’ve ever dreamed of. Your worth on this earth is so much more then you will ever know.  

Love, from your older, wiser self.

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Now, after reading this back to my husband for feedback I found myself in tears.  I couldn’t stop thinking about how many girls and boys deserve to hear this every single day of their lives, but don’t.  Although I was loved unconditionally as a child, I didn’t have much encouragement to dream big, have faith in myself and be fantastically me. This letter has truly made me rethink how hard we can sometimes struggle as youngsters. Please don’t get me wrong, my family and friends are great, but many of them favored the simple life and stressed job security and a safer formula for success then venturing into the unknown.  I’ve learned that for me being happy and taking risks is much more important then playing it safe. Kids go through many stages of life and it can get hard, but if you have someone in your corner always rooting for you to be your best self, strive for your dreams and follow your heart you might realize that life does get better than you ever could of imagined.

I would really encourage everyone to do this. It has been a really cool experience and one I’m really happy I shared with you all.

I’m off to go be fantastically me and write a letter to my unborn boy (which I will put in his memory book) because he already deserves to know how important and valued he is in this life.

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Much love to you all,

Tiff XOXO

9 Comments

  1. Chantelle

    This letter is amazing, I literally cried the entire time while reading it. How amazing is it that your son gets to grow up with such an awesome mom with such inspiration and words of encouragement. Being a youngster can be tough and I know you that you will never let him down or let others knock him down!!! Amazing!!!!! You are the strongest woman I know, and admire…..thanks for sharing.

    • Tiffany

      That Means so much to me Chantelle. Thank you for saying that and leaving such a heartfelt comment. I admire you too, don’t ever forget it. So much love for you. XOXOXOOXOXOO

  2. Looking forward to hearing more from you on your new blog! I’m a little sad that I’m rarely in Toronto and won’t be able to try any of your restaurant recommendations though. You’ll have to do a Tiffany in Vancouver feature if you ever come out this way. I loved this post. I think getting pregnant leads to a lot of introspection. We all want to give our children what we missed out on ourselves. Your ability to care for yourself will serve you well when you’re a new mom. You’ll have to learn to love your mother-self, flaws and all!, just as you learned to love yourself before motherhood. You’re going to rock it.

    • Tiffany

      Andrea, you are so so right. It took a long time to learn to love myself and I know that after having a baby I will again have to learn to love that new me including those days of self doubt and feeling like a bad parent(because I know I’ll have those days too). Self love is so important and is something I will forever be working on. I would love to make it out west and will be sure to connect with you when I do. You’ll have to take me to some of the West Coast sea food hot spots. I hear the food trucks are pretty awesome there too. Thanks for commenting, Andrea. Miss you. xo

  3. Deidre

    This read was amazing Tiff! I too have been writing letters for my daughter with words of encouragement, attempting to explain how much she means to me, I say attempt because words just can’t compare to the real feeling. However it is something that I hope she will cherish. Childhood and this day and aged society is nothing like we have experienced, and I intend to make it much easier on my children then I had it growing up. Your blogs and posts, seeing what you have amounted to and continue to thrive is truley a blessing to read and follow, you are an amazing women! Who will be an amazing mom! Keep it up and always believe! <3

    • Tiffany

      Thanks, Deidre. I can only imagine the words I write now will only be a fraction of how I’ll feel when baby arrives. I know growing up wasn’t easy in our day and it certainly isn’t any easier now, but I hope my experiences will help me help my child as he grows. I can’t protect him from everything nor do I want to because the things we go through make us stronger, better people. However, I do want to share certain things with him to help him cope and understand that life only gets better as we age, despite the fact we sometimes don’t believe it will. Thank you for your comment. It truly makes me so happy to be connecting with you guys. XOXOXO

  4. Jenn Matthews

    What a wonderful, honest, and amazing letter to your younger self and to all children! We all want our kids to be safe but it is still possible to do/be great things in unconventional ways! Every person on Earth has their own path, parents often don’t know what that’ll mean for their kids…you just have to figure it out yourself sometimes (and that’s the most important journey). I must say…you sure have found yours and it’s very inspiring to people who have not fulfilled their dreams. You are a very inspiring person Tiff (ya’heard?!!) and a good heart has taken you a LONG way! Can’t wait to see what you’re up to…always! Keep grinding girl!! I’m with ya homie! Xo

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